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Wednesday, March 30, 2011
I've been doing a lot better all in all this trimester. The morning sickness (ahem, and NIGHTTIME sickness) has subsided, I'm enjoying food again, and I'm not as tired as I was. The naps at 6pm after work aren't as frequent ;) Of course there have been a slew of new 'symptoms', and my back hurts pretty much every day. My hips hurt at night. I think it's time for a pregnancy pillow! I've also outgrown many of my work pants where it's just not comfortable to even wear the belly bands. Time to stock up on some new maternity clothes this weekend! I took my belly ring out after reading a few people's advice on them. Apparently if you leave it in too long it can create a very nasty scar! It's very odd not seeing my belly bling down there, as I've had it for 10 years now! I will take a new photo this evening of the belly and post it as well.
Tomorrow is the BIG day of finding out the gender!! It will probably go down as the LONGEST day at work for me..ever. ;) The ultrasound place said that I could bring in 3 people plus myself, so BOTH of our mom's get to come! The dads will be waiting nearby in the waiting room to hear the news first and celebrate with us :)
My appointment is at 2:45pm so stayed tuned to the blog where we will post the results FIRST before Facebook.
Have a wonderful day everyone, and THANK YOU to all our followers. We love sharing this experience with our amazing friends and family.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Sonia and I are just a couple days away from discovering what little baby Rossman will be, a boy or a girl. You may or may not be aware but there are many old wives tales that predict (and I use that word loosely) what the baby’s gender will be. We decided to participate in many of the experiments to see what they “predicted.” This was a fun activity for us to do; some of them were pretty silly.
Oval belly, not round. Watermelon vs basketball. GIRL
Carrying low. BOY
Increased acne. GIRL
Morning sickness, yes! GIRL
Over 140 bpm heartrate. GIRL
full, round face (but no real change). GIRL
clumsy (she’s always been tho =P). BOY
boobie tests. Both results were BOY
feet temp the same. GIRL
leg hair growth, same. GIRL
faster, stronger nail growth. BOY
looking good, not ugly. BOY
dull yellow pee. GIRL
nose growth/wider, no. GIRL
headaches, yes. BOY
dad gains weight (Sonia doesn’t think I have. I feel like I have because of unemployment and now my fancy pants and shirts for work are a bit snug). GIRL/BOY??
sleep/rest on left side BOY
sweets, fruits, and Orange Juice. GIRL
does not eat heels/ends of bread loaves. GIRL
NOT craving protein (meats and cheeses). GIRL
The ring barely swayed GIRL, sometimes circled. BOY
We tried this one several times. I held the string over her belly and then her hand. She held it over her belly and then her hand. Then I pinned it to the ceiling to remove human element and it barely moved. I think it moved because our arms would get tired and move from holding the string up for a minute or two.
Picked up fat part of key. I put a key on the ground and in my hand, both times Sonia picked it up by the fat top part of the key. BOY
shows her hands palms up. GIRL
pillow facing north. BOY
chinese calendar. (Age during conception and month of conception) BOY
mayan math (add year, 2010, with mother’s age at the time, 25, odd answer, 2035, is a boy). BOY
baby names, agree on a specific gender name, it will be that gender. we have no boy names picked out, but we agree on one name for a girl. GIRL
childbirth.org quiz - You have a 33% chance of having a BOY and you have a 66% chance of having a GIRL.
babygenderprediction.com 27% chance of BOY, 73% chance of GIRL.
Sonia's had heartburn too so that means baby will have a full head of hair!
Lastly, one more "prediction" brought to us by our good friend Marcus Perry, who said: "heads BOY.... tails GIRL...........ok just did a best out of 3 and boy won 2-1. congrats on your baby boy. The coin never lies, If wrong cheese quisidilla on me from memos" Well, there you have it!
One interesting test we did not do (no Drano) was to mix a tablespoon of Drano in mom’s urine and watch to see if it changes color. Green = GIRL, and blue = BOY. Maybe we'll do this AFTER we know the gender and put it to the test.
So, what do you think? Looks like a baby Rossman will be a girl, a baby Rosslady.
Thursday, March 24, 2011
Monday, March 21, 2011
The news of becoming a father this summer is not the only life change I've received in the last few months. I have had a couple of life changes lately. One big change, my job situation, has come full circle. So, I feel more comfortable discussing it all in “public” now.
Last summer, the department I worked for announced a 20% labor reduction. This was the third lay-off wave in two years. Lots of reduction in workforce had already been done – the remaining people were very overworked. The first two reductions “cut the fat” to "lean" us out, so a third cut was a scary one. There weren't enough people for the work as it was, so this reduction was going to make things even worse. At this point I saw receiving a lay-off notice as a potential positive; while of course, not receiving one was also a positive since I’d keep my job. If I got a notice, I was receiving a clean break, a free college degree, and I was not going to be around to be even more overworked and underappreciated.
On October 29th my manager set up a meeting with me to discuss the reduction in workforce. I knew what was coming – she was only setting up meetings with people getting laid off. The meeting was a mere formality – a part of the process so my manager could cross it off her to-do list. To this day I do not agree with the decision and the reasoning behind it, but it turns out it was for the best, sort of.
January 4th was my official last day, but my final working day was December 23rd. The company closes for about 10 days at the end of every year as paid holidays. So up until a few weeks ago, I was still being paid as if I was still working there (via this holiday break, severance package, vacation time payout, and the annual bonus). During this time I also collected unemployment while I finished my Associate’s Degree (which I finished on Feb 13) and looked for a job/career that I wanted to do. Financially, I was going to be okay for a while, but the uncertainty of the future was frightening. Trouble was that I also did not know what I wanted to do; or at least as a realistic career choice. I would love to someday become a sports journalist (or something to do with sports). I would love to make a career out of following, talking about, and writing about sports – namely Seahawks football, of course. Until that time comes, I have to make due with other career choices.
I found some jobs that looked interesting and applied to them but never heard anything back. I am certain these companies were flooded with applicants and the numbers game was not playing in my favor. I gave myself two months time to find a job that fit what I wanted to do before I would then include any job that would pay the bills. I was going to take what I could get to support my family - that is what is most important.
My deadline was reached and I began to apply to more jobs where I previously worked, and jobs similar to what I was doing before. I also added my resume to job placement sites to see what would come my way. A couple weeks later and I got a bite!
I applied for a job at my previous employer through a recruiting company. The company rep called me a day after I applied to discuss the position and ask me a couple questions. Five minutes later my resume was sent to the hiring manager. But wait! I had to know who the hiring manager was because if it was my previous manager, I knew I was not going to be hired. Let’s just say she did not like me for some reason (I still don’t know why) and I will never work for her again. So if the recruiter told me it was my previous manager then I was going to move on….but this job was for a different manager, and one that I had worked with in the past. So I sent the hiring manager an email to re-introduce myself and express my interest in the job. Within a few hours of the email, my good reputation from previous work earned myself a job offer!!
I am now back to work - today is my second day back. The funny thing is that I am back with a promotion (to the position I was working towards but my last manager did not want to promote me to) and a raise too! The one major down-side is no medical benefits. Yet. I plan on becoming a permanent employee again so my family and I get their good benefit package back. Another down-side is no more working from home (my department is ending that program very soon) – which I know this will please you previously jealous people out there! ;) I have to drive in to work again, like most of you do.
In October, I was disgusted with my previous manager’s decision but remained optimistic that I would land on my feet and move on to bigger and better things. I have done that in some ways and am enjoying the last laugh now! My previous manager didn't deserve to have someone like me working on her team. Now I am with a team that has always appreciated me and I look forward to the future. I feel I am in a good place now and am interested to see what happens in the coming months. Having the weight of an uncertainty of having a good job or not is now off my shoulders! =) That makes focusing on baby and mommy/wife much easier.
I wanna thank my wife, Sonia, and my mom for their support during the last few months. I also thank the rest of my family and friends who were there for me. It meant a lot to have that support and encouragement.
Sunday, March 13, 2011
Thanks for the follows and the wonderful comments. Baby and I are doing great, and I'm feeling better every day! The 2nd trimester is much better than the 1st!!
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Also, we scheduled our next ultrasound, where we find out the sex of the baby, for Thursday, March 31. 3 weeks away now!! We are pretty excited to find out what the baby is - hopefully baby cooperates and shows the goods lol (I posted a blog called "Pink or Blue" for everyone to share what they think the baby will be, boy or girl. So check that out and leave your thoughts!)
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Friday, March 4, 2011
Thursday, March 3, 2011
We had an appointment with our midwife today, and we got to listen to the heartbeat again :) I could seriously listen to that all day. It's so amazing to hear what is going on inside my belly. We also got to schedule the BIG ultrasound for March 31st, to find out the sex. WHOO HOO! I am so excited! Here is the video Tony took of the heartbeat:
Hope you enjoy!! I'm off to watch American Idol, and torture Tony a little. Hehe!
Wednesday, March 2, 2011
Before we get to the stories of how we told our parents, Sonia's birthday dinner with the family. Our parents were trying to buy her drinks for her birthday but of course, she could not drink them. So we had to come up with a way to play it off. Sonia told them she had just started new allergy medicine (which she had) but she could not drink with it (which she did not know for sure since she had not drank since she had the new meds). Sonia went on to explain she drank on the meds (which she didn't) when we were in San Francisco and she got really sick. So she did not want to drink at dinner since she had just taken her allergy pills. ;-)
Good story huh? Well, they bought it and our secret was safe. Whew!
On to Christmas Eve, we spend this night with Sonia's parents at their house. It was go time! We finally got to tell our parents after this night! Sonia found these picture frames at Kohls that had 3 picture spots for mom, dad, and baby which read "mom+dad=me". Its the same picture on this main blog screen at the top. Sonia printed up some pictures of us and a picture of the positive pregnancy as the "baby" picture. She also found some baby booties at Kohls and stuck them to the frame. We then wrapped the frame into a gift box and wrapped it in paper.
After dinner we began to open presents. Sonia and I anxiously awaited the final gift to present to the grandparents-to-be. As the time came, I slyly pulled out the video camera and hit record to capture the moments forever. Kris and Greg were sitting together so we presented them with their joint gift. They began unwrapping the box and then opening the box to uncover our surprise. However, Kris did not understand the message right away. We could tell Greg understood but he withheld his excitement until Kris understood.
Kris saw our photos first and commented, "oh this is cute honey." She didn't see the baby part of the gift yet. Then Kris saw the booties and asked us, "Why are there booties on it?" Then it hit her. "Oh my God! Are you pregnant honey?!?!" Then the tears began to well up. (Them dang onions again heh heh). Greg then jumped up to finally unleash his happiness and hugged Sonia and congratulate us. Kris also hugged and kissed Sonia in celebration. Then I got some hugs and kisses from my awesome in-laws.
Then the times where Sonia had turned down alcohol all made sense (she had accepted a glass of wine that night but didn't touch it and her parents commented how she had not drank any yet). We had a good laugh looking back.
The rest of the night was spent celebrating together, explaining the whole secret keeping times, and discussing what the future held for us. We had just experienced one of life's best moments.
Then we got to experience it for a second time the next day, on Christmas Day with my parents, brothers, aunt, and grandma. I had wrapped up the my frame (the same one Sonia had), without the booties, but instead I included two onesies. One for my mom that had frogs on it (she loves frog stuff) and one for my dad that said "Grandpa's Sidekick" on it.
I had planned to just slide this special gift into the middle of the gift exchange to further the surprise as just another gift. I handed the gift to my mom and told my dad that he should keep an eye on this one since it was sort of for him too. Then I told my brothers, aunt, and grandma to "watch this." This phrase seemed to scare my mom into thinking I was pulling a prank on her, especially since I had also pulled out the video camera. So I decided to play along and assure her it was okay to open. My mom unwrapped the box, opened the box, and within a second of pulling back the tissue paper my mom jumped up screaming in excitement from the froggy onesie! She had barely seen the frame. The froggies were enough for her. Her excitement puzzled the rest of my family. They had asked, "what?? What?!" She exclaimed in a childish voice "They're gonna have a baby!!"
My mom then rushed passed by me saying "I know you're my son, but I gotta hug her (Sonia) first!" Meanwhile my dad hugged and congratulated me while my brothers still stood in shock. My youngest brother Bryan blurted out "Holy shit! Are you serious?!" He still thought we were messing around or something haha. My younger brother Dwayne was happy to state "I'm gonna be an uncle!!" My aunt and grandmother were happy to hear the news as well. This would be my grandma's third great-grandchild.
After Sonia and I had told my parents we called Sonia's parents to come over and celebrate with us. All together as an excited, blessed family, we celebrated with champagne...and apple cider for those who could not drink alcohol ;-) Some of the best 24 hours we have had in our lives and undeniably one of the best Christmas memories we have now. And we have all the great, funny, special moments on video to remember for many years to come!